Divorced parents who share custody often have a tough time coming to terms on child-rearing. However, it's in the best interest of your children to do so, even when hurt feelings and resentment exist between you and your ex. If you need help developing a co-parenting schedule that works for all involved, Very Well Family offers the following advice.
Don't focus solely on convenience
Fostering a healthy and loving relationship with both parents is the goal of joint custody. Accordingly, don't sacrifice quality time for convenience. While both parties should work to create a schedule that basically accommodates everyone, you must be willing to compromise in some areas. In the same token, your ex must also be willing to make sacrifices to ensure your child receives the proper care from both parents.
Revisit the plan every few years
Just because you have an amazing parenting schedule in place now doesn't mean it will always be that way. As your child grows older, his or her needs will also change. For instance, older kids may want to spend more time with their friends or become involved in numerous extracurricular activities. Don't remain stuck to a plan even after it's become obsolete. Instead, sit down with your ex and work on creating a new plan that addresses any changes.
Don't be afraid to ask your children for their input
Another thing to keep in mind as your kids get older is they may want to be involved in creating and revising the co-parenting schedule. Having a family meeting and discussing the matter is a great way to keep the focus on your children, where it belongs. Also, you can still feel free to veto any ideas that don't work for you or your ex. Just the very act of involving your children can be cathartic.