Once you have a parenting agreement in place and your divorce finally comes to an end, you'll turn your attention to the immediate future.
More so than anything else, you need to get on the same page as the other parent in regard to co-parenting. While your parenting agreement is sure to help, there are other things you need to do in order to keep the peace.
Here are five co-parenting tips that you can use to your advantage after divorce:
- Think about the feelings of the other parent. Even if you've gone through a nasty divorce you should still consider that your ex-spouse is dealing with a lot and facing many of the same troubles as you.
- Be flexible, when possible. You want to stick with the details of your parenting agreement to the best of your ability, but remaining flexible at all times is a must. This isn't always something you want to do, but it can go a long way in keeping everyone happy (including your child).
- Communicate effectively. Effective communication means remaining calm and making progress during every conversation. It doesn't mean you scream at the other person, argue about the details at hand, and then move on.
- Choose your battles carefully. There will be times when you need to push back against your ex-spouse. While it's okay to do so, you must be selective. Choose your battles carefully, or you could find yourself arguing entirely too often.
- Respect your child's time with the other parent. This can be difficult to get used to, but it's a good habit. Once you hand your child off to the other parent, let them enjoy their time together.
You are sure to compile additional co-parenting tips as the days go by, but these five could help put you on the right path to success from the start.
One of the most important things is that you understand your parenting agreement. When you know what's expected of you and the other parent, it's easier to stay in line and avoid a bad situation.
If, for any reason, your ex-spouse continually goes against your parenting agreement, you may have to consider legal action.